In a large bowl, beat cream cheese, condensed milk, mix unitl smooth. Add the milk and the large box of vanilla pudding and mix until smooth, fold in 1/2 of the cool whip
Layer wafers in a 9"x13" pan and top with sliced bananas. Spread 1/2 of the pudding mix over top of the wafers and banans. To the other 1/2 of the pudding mix add 1/2 of the banana instant pudding mix and mix well.
Put wafers and bananas on top of pudding mix and add the rest of the pudding over top of the wafers and bananas and spread until even. Put pan in the refrigerater until set. Before taking the pudding out of the refrigerater take the rest of the cool whip and add the other 1/2 of the banana instant pudding mix and mix well. Take pudding from refrigerater and spread over top of pudding mix. Then if there is any cookies left crush them up and spread the crumbs over top of the cool whip. Keep in refrigerater until ready to serve.