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No matter if you're a "newbie" grandparent, have wonderful memories of a favorite grandparent or are an experienced "veteran" grandparent, this group is for you. After 30 years of being a "professional mom", I became a grandparent and realized that I suddenly had a whole new role to learn. Whether you are a long-distance grandparent, or a daily caregiver, everyone can use advice on handling situations unique to being a grandparent.
Whether you are looking for the perfect birthday gift for a 9 year old, have an awesome recipe idea for a finicky 2 year old or are dealing with navigating your way through a difficult family issue, I'm willing to bet that the wonderful men and women on JAP have a bit of wise, tried and true advice to guide you through successfully to the other side.
Let this be a safe-haven to discuss any issue relating to being a grandparent. Fun recipe ideas for children, age appropriate gift ideas, crafts, being the very best long-distance (...or short-distance!) grandparent you can be or talking your way through a difficult family situation, please feel safe and secure talking your way through to a happy ending with the wise and incredible advice of fellow JAP grandparents. Feel free to swap those ideas which were huge successes... and of course, those that were complete flops! =)
As always, please be kind, gentle, respectful and non-judgmental. Above all, grab a cup of coffee and enjoy!
Aug 22, 2016
1. It's time to use the money you saved up. Use it and enjoy it. Don't just keep it for those who may have no notion of the sacrifices you made to get it. Remember there is nothing more dangerous than a son or daughter-in-law with big ideas for your hard earned capital. Enjoy the present moment. The sand in the clock may run out at any moment.
2. Stop worrying about the financial situation of your children and grandchildren. You've taken care of them for many years, and you've taught them what you could. You gave them an education, food, shelter and support. The responsibility is now theirs to earn their way.
3. Keep a healthy life with moderate exercise (like walking every day), eat well and get your sleep. It's easy to become sick, and it gets harder to remain healthy. Keep in touch with your doctor, get tested even when you're feeling well. Stay informed.
4. Always buy the best, most beautiful items for your significant other. The key goal is to enjoy your money with your partner. One day one of you will miss the other, and the money will not provide any comfort then. Enjoy it together.
5. Don't stress over the little things. You've already overcome so much in your life. You have good memories and bad ones, but the important thing is the present. Don't let the past drag you down or the future frighten you.
6. Regardless of age, always keep love alive. Love your partner, love life, love your family, love your neighbor, your surroundings, your country. We are never old as long as we have intelligence and affection.
7. Be proud, both inside and out. Don't stop going to your hair salon or barber. Do your nails, go to the dermatologist and the dentist. Keep your perfumes and creams well stocked. When you are well-maintained on the outside, it seeps in, making you feel proud and strong on the inside.
8. Don't lose sight of fashion trends for your age, but keep your own sense of style. There's nothing sillier than an older person trying to wear the current fashion among youngsters. You've developed your own sense of what looks good on you - keep it and be proud of it. It's part of who you are.
9. Read newspapers, watch the news. Go online and read what people are saying. Make sure you have an active email account and try to use some of those social networks. You'll be surprised which old friends you'll meet. Keeping in touch with what is going on and with the people you know is important at any age.
10. Respect the younger generation and their opinions. They may not have the same viewpoints as ours, but they are the future and will take the world in their direction. Give advice, not criticism, and try to remind them of yesterday's wisdom that still applies today.
11. Never use the phrase: "In my time." Your time is now. As long as you're alive, you are part of this time. You have been younger, but you are still you now, having fun and enjoying life.
12. Some people embrace their golden years, while others become bitter and surly. Life is too short to waste your days in the latter mode. Spend your time with positive, cheerful people, it'll rub off on you and your days will seem that much better. Spending your time with bitter people will make you older and harder to be around.
13. Do not surrender to the temptation of living with your children or grandchildren (if you have a financial choice, that is). Sure, being surrounded by family sounds great, but we all need our privacy. They need theirs and you need yours. If you've lost your partner (our deepest condolences), then find a person to move in with you and help out only if you feel you really need the help or do not want to live alone.
14. Don't abandon your hobbies. If you don't have any, make new ones. You can travel, hike, cook, read, dance. You can adopt a cat or a dog, grow a garden, play cards, checkers, chess dominoes, golf. You can paint, volunteer at an NGO or collect certain items. Find something you like and spend some real time having fun with it.
15. Even if you don't feel like it, try to accept invitations. Baptisms, graduations, birthdays, weddings, conferences. Try to go. Get out of the house, meet people you haven't seen in a while, experience something new (or something old). But don't get upset when you're not invited. Some events are limited by resources, and not everyone can be hosted. The important thing is to leave the house from time to time. Go to museums, go walk through a field. Get out there.
May 12, 2016
May 5, 2016
Feb 24, 2016
I'm still commuting back and forth between my hometown and my own home, a 350 mile round trip. I miss you all terribly and days spent leisurely and lovingly spent in my kitchen.
Lately, home-cooked meals have been few and far between, but I am beginning to see light at the end of the tunnel. Thank you all for your thoughts, prayers, concerns and PM's. You'll never know just how much they mean to me. There were multiple times when my spirits were low that a perfectly timed message of hope would suddenly appear. You are some of the most compassionate, nurturing and loving friends that I have ever known. =)
My mom continues to slowly improve, but we have most definitely taken a massive step in the wrong direction. Most of the things that we enjoyed together before Christmas are now memories, but sweet ones. We will continue to enjoy our love and time together for just as long as God is willing. She is saddened, but at peace.
I've always been a bit of a black sheep in a family of strictly disciplined, professional, analytical thinkers. My humor and undying optimism have been the subject of much ridicule throughout my life. But, during our family's darkest times, it is love, nurturing, optimism and yes, humor, which has provided our lifeline. I now know, more than ever, that God gave me this gift and made me different from the others in my family for a reason. Everything in life has its reason and purpose. Possessing the ability to be the only person to make my mom laugh through breast cancer, colon cancer, my Dad's death and now this, is something I cherish more than anything else in my life. The very greatest gifts you can give another are optimism and laughter, even at what seems like a time of tremendous sadness. There is never a wrong time to make someone smile.
Hopefully, things will settle into a "new normal" soon and I can spend more time at home having some much needed down time. =)
Love to you all!
Feb 18, 2016
I have worked on this recipe for about 6 months. The last thing I figured out was how long to steam the eggplant. If you steam it too long it turns to mush and not ling enough the skin is too tough to chew up.
Even friends who said they didn't like eggplant thought this was delicious. Give it a try.
Steamed Eggplant In Garlic Sauce
Jan 21, 2016
I ask for your prayers to ease her suffering and to heal our broken hearts.
Love to you all,
Jan 7, 2016
My old dishwasher is 19 years old and was selected during the construction of our lovely, custom home. Of course then, our needs were so much different. There had to be considerations for bottles, tippy cups and miniature plates and bowls. What new features will I find today??
So, I'm heading out early to check out the latest models. **sigh** I know I should be excited, but I'm not. I feel like I'm losing part of our family. lol I've replaced all of my other major appliances during a kitchen remodel 1-2 years ago, but the dishwasher remained. I paid $198.00 for it in 1996 and I've never put a single penny into it for repairs.
Did a little online research last night, and I think I know what I'm looking for. With rough opening measurements in hand, I'll get out of here early to beat the snow and ice coming in later today. Until I figure this out and get something ordered, I'm afraid the 'ol dishwasher in this house will be ME. =) Instead of allowances for bottles and tippy cups, I'll now be looking for security for my wine glasses and stemware... that is, until I become so old that tippy cups and bottles again become a necessity. =)
Wish me luck! =)
Take a look at this ad. You can cook and wash on your refrigerator. Forget Energy Star. Now THAT'S what I call efficient! lol